Friday, October 29, 2010

Sensible Wedding, behind the scenes.

If you go back one post, You'll read about a sensible wedding.
This is where I talk about the behind the scenes on this story. Let me say first that the romanticism or lack thereof of this particular wedding is important, does a nonchalant service equal a dead relationship or just two practical people?, Important, yes: not what I'm going to talk about - Let's go and talk about the individuals.

Who are these people?

T.D. Feaster (1826-1897) known to the family as Trez. He was the first Trezevant DeGraffenreid Feaster, but the name has continued on. I note around 3-4 Tez Feasters since that time.
His first marriage was in December 1949, when he was around 23 to Martha D. (or S.) McConnell who was about 17. T.D.'s brother stated that in 1848, that she was quite a head-turner. She was the third daughter of Andrew McConnell. She died c1854
He second marriage was in 1854 to Julia Fowler Collins of Philadelphia.
His third and last marriage was (as noted) to Mary Cubbison. She was around 20.
and she died about 20 years later. They had one daughter who lived to adulthood.
That daughter never married, and is buried next to her father in Feasterville. She had a winter home in Daytona Florida in 1909, and the paper noted that she was there with her cousin, a Miss Edens, and her aunt, a Miss Cubbison. This would be the youngest daughter, still alive 50 years later.
Mary's mother was Margaret Cubbison, born in 1810 in Pennsylvania. she and her youngest daughter, Sallie, were still living with TD in 1860. Sallie was 13 then, Mary 22. All of the Cubberson family were born in PA.
We know that TD went with his older brother in Columbia, SC in 1859-1860
and started a store. His brother overtook him historically (or rather his brother's wife and her mid-teens daughter) and sits in various history books even today (no wonder he moved to Florida). T.D. was the postmaster of Buckhead SC in 1885, just a slight piece down the road from Feasterville. He's the Feaster who didn't leave the county after the war.

Let me be more exact - TD's younger brother was (before TD and Martha got engaged) concerned that his friend, who had just seen Martha, might not be able to get his jaw back in place. So she was jaw dropping good looking.

Was he, his wife, his daughter, his mother-in-law Universalists? We don't know. His younger brother was (by doctrine if not attendance).

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

1858 Wedding Ceremony

From Rev D. B. Clayton's autobiography are these comments on a:

Sensible Wedding.

During this visit, the writer celebrated on October 23, [1858] what he may, he thinks, properly designate a unique wedding. At Alston a friend of his, Mr. T. D. Feaster, intimated to him, as he went on up to Spartanburg, that he might possibly want him to perform a marriage ceremony for him as he returned. Mr. Feaster had already been married more than once, and was at that time boarding with the mother of his last wife, who was a widow, with one grown-up daughter and another about ten years of age. The residence was within a very few steps of the railroad track. Passengers going down from Spartanburg had to wait an hour or two for a train down from Greenville, on which to reach Columbia. On the arrival of the writer, Mr. Feaster invited him to his boarding house. He had not intimated, nor had the preacher any idea, who the bride was to be, in case a marriage should occur. On reaching the house introductions were passed, and Mr. Feaster and his friend sated.

No one was about, besides the two gentleman, but the mother and her two daughters, the elder of whom sat at her work-table sewing, the younger being engaged in the culinary department, which was in a side room. Conversation was engaged in, and continued for an hour or so, without any allusion to a wedding, when Mr. Feaster inquired of the preacher: "What is the time of day?" On being told, he remarked: "It will soon be train time" and then turning to the young lady at the work-table he said, "Mary, if we are going to get married, I guess we had better attend to it. Are you ready?" "Yes," replied she, and together they faced the minister, who by that time had taken his stand. The younger sister and her mother being called, stepped in from the cooking department, and, in much less time than it takes to record this description of the scene, the couple were united in the bonds of wedlock: whereupon the bride resumed the seat from which she had so recently arisen, took her work from the table, and resumed where she left off, the younger sister returned to her work, and the preacher, after waiting a little while longer till the train arrived, boarded it and went on his journey, with a five-dollar-bill in his pocket that he had not carried there, feeling that he had officiated at about as sensible a wedding as he had ever attended.

editor's note: Mary was Trez's 3rd wife (at least), I don't see where he married her sister - but certainly possible.
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